I am slightly annoyed, we have been trying since december. He is just hmmmm yep unenthusiastic is the word. lol. Not upset about it, just not ecstatic enough about it for my liking. I wanted this to be a joyous thing seeing as our first child was unplanned and we cried when we saw the positive test, I thought maybe this time we could be happy about it…. oh well huh. Anyone else had the same feeling?
My husband didn’t believe me. I had been sick for two weeks before I got a positive test. I called him at work and he was less than excited. I had to leave the test in the bathroom for him to believe me. At our first visit, we heard the baby’s heartbeat and saw the 1st ultrasound. I was ECSTATIC! He…not so much. He really didn’t get into my pregnancy until we found out what the sex was. After he knew he was going to have a "daddy’s girl," he slowly started to get more and more excited.
It doesn’t seem real for most men until the baby starts moving, or until you start becoming HUGE!
We had an unplanned pregnancy too. And even though it didn’t come at such a great time in our relationship, (we had been married for only 2 months) my husband turned out to be the most wonderful father. Our daughter just loves him. Sometimes I think she prefers him to me!
Sometimes the stress of a second child is overwhelming to men. I’ve already talked about having another while my husband talks about getting fixed. He thinks what we have right now is perfect. Men are just different. They think about the entire picture, while we women compartmentalize every detail. Just be patient with him.
Congrats!! He’ll come around eventually.
May 6th, 2010 at 7:38 pm
Absoloutly!
I was excited, partner not-as-much-as me, so I ended up feeling silly, because I expected him to be much happier!
it’s still sinking in 17 weeks later! but he shows much more interest now.
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May 6th, 2010 at 8:12 pm
I know what you mean! I just found out I’m pregnant a little over a week ago and when I told my partner he didn’t really say anything, just started getting worried about money! I was kind of hurt, but he apologized later!
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May 6th, 2010 at 8:46 pm
if i became pregnant i really be exicted……
oh by the way i am a male, Lol
Congrats to you
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May 6th, 2010 at 9:17 pm
he lacked it so much that he even ran away lol im tellin the truth no father for my baby now lol
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May 6th, 2010 at 9:47 pm
LOL that is funny. Men don’t veiw having a baby like women do. We are the care takers the ones that love on them all that good mommy stuff. I have yet to see any man that I know including my other half get excited when they find out there partner is pregnant. Its a happy time for the girls but look at what the men have to look forward too….emotions, mood swings and then when the baby comes they don’t really want to have anything to do with it til it can walk and talk.
I think there excitment comes when it is finaly born and there is someting to put with the it. Physical evidence. LOL
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May 6th, 2010 at 10:07 pm
it was opposite for me… he was all excited and i wasn’t one little bit to start of with – but now its all mutural
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May 6th, 2010 at 10:37 pm
yeah i totally understand you there we weren’t trying but when i told him he just went back to sleep. i was like,"how rude!"
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May 6th, 2010 at 10:53 pm
I know the feeling we had only been trying for a month!!! and I really wanted to be pregnant when i found out i was i was over the moon!!! my husband didnt seem bothered considering he wasn’t even her for the birth of our first i thought he might of shown a little emotion but no!!!!
I guess its just a man thing as they wont really have any changes in their normal lives until the baby is born!!!
Men hey lol
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May 6th, 2010 at 11:04 pm
isnt it good to know that you arent the only one in love with a typical bloke! mine didnt beleive me and just started saying no no no.. he is excited now but it takes a while for it to sink in for them..good luck xxx
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May 6th, 2010 at 11:41 pm
I know what you mean, but try to remember men are fixers, so you say im pregnant with a smile and bills, and bigger cars, and college, and dollar signs run through his head before he can think about the neet parts… take it easy on him…
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May 7th, 2010 at 12:08 am
Yep my partner was not too excited and he was very aware it would happen eventually especially since we had been trying for over a year. Although i was pregnant before and miscarried so im not sure if that had something to do with the way he reacted. He never said anything bad, he just didnt seem excited or overjoyed about it which really annoyed me because all i wanted to do was talk about our unborn baby. Once the pregnancy got further along he became more supportive but because this is our first child he was scared he wouldnt be a good dad.
But the day i delivered he stayed with me for the 9 hours i was in labour, he slept at the hospital and actually watched our son being born which surprised me. He was excellent.
Maybe he is just in shock and doesnt know how to react, Guys minds are weird, you never know whats going on in their heads. Maybe just ask him and see why he is reacting the way he is.
Anyways hun, i hope he pulls his head in soon and starts being supportive of you and your baby. Best of luck for the future!!
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May 7th, 2010 at 12:21 am
My husband didn’t believe me. I had been sick for two weeks before I got a positive test. I called him at work and he was less than excited. I had to leave the test in the bathroom for him to believe me. At our first visit, we heard the baby’s heartbeat and saw the 1st ultrasound. I was ECSTATIC! He…not so much. He really didn’t get into my pregnancy until we found out what the sex was. After he knew he was going to have a "daddy’s girl," he slowly started to get more and more excited.
It doesn’t seem real for most men until the baby starts moving, or until you start becoming HUGE!
We had an unplanned pregnancy too. And even though it didn’t come at such a great time in our relationship, (we had been married for only 2 months) my husband turned out to be the most wonderful father. Our daughter just loves him. Sometimes I think she prefers him to me!
Sometimes the stress of a second child is overwhelming to men. I’ve already talked about having another while my husband talks about getting fixed. He thinks what we have right now is perfect. Men are just different. They think about the entire picture, while we women compartmentalize every detail. Just be patient with him.
Congrats!! He’ll come around eventually.
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